DOMA and Me

2011 March 13

Two big headlines that I will always recall, in one paper:

“Defense of Marriage Act Sails Through Senate”


“Employment Non-discrimination Act Fails to Pass”

It was September 1996, and these were my welcome messages from the United States government after my year-long, round-the-world trip. read more…

Gina and Her British Partner

2011 January 19
by gmcaprio

America’s unjust immigration law,  which prohibits an American citizen from sponsoring a foreign-born, non-US citizen, same-sex partner is destroying my family. Currently, U.S. policy permits a heterosexual American citizen to sponsor a heterosexual foreign-born partner for immigration purposes, as long as the two have met at least once in person in the past two years; Same-sex binational couples are denied such an opportunity.

I am a United States citizen and have been in a same-sex, binational relationship with a British citizen for the past four years.  Our relationship has endured because of our commitment to each other despite the mental and physical hardships and expense that U.S. laws have forced us to endure.  I am separated for great lengths of time from the love of my life, from my support system, from the person I intend to spend the rest of my life with.   We have spent thousands of dollars, money which was and is difficult to raise, in order to spend short periods of time together. read more…

Where to Now?

2011 January 17
by admin

The 2010 mid-term elections have come and gone, and the surprisingly productive “lame duck” session ended the 111th Congress with a few long-fought-for victories, including, seemingly miraculously, the legislative repeal of DADT, the openly discriminatory military policy of “Don’t Ask/Don’t Tell,” signed into law by Bill Clinton in 1993. read more…

Exiled Since 1986

2011 January 15
by ricbrendan

Editor’s note: This account came in as part of another posting, in the form of a letter to President Obama and to Congressional leaders. Reproduced here so that it can be listed independently as one of “our stories.”

Dear President Obama, Majority Leader Reid, Speaker Pelosi, Chairman Schumer, and Chairwoman Lofgren:

I am writing to ask for your support for the Uniting American Families Act. It will most likely be unimportant to you that I left USA in 1986 because of my longstanding relationship with a same-sex partner of British nationality. read more…

Keep sending your letters too. Never give up.

2011 January 15
by ricbrendan

I have sent the letter below every month for the last three months. Not one reply to date. I will continue to send to those addressed until someone replies. read more…

Self. Help.

2010 November 3
by admin

No one is going to hand us anything.

The Democrats will give us only lip service, when it’s convenient. The Republicans outright hate our guts.

I no longer believe that we will ever gain parity through the electoral process. Mr. Boehner PLEASE — prove me wrong! read more…

Two New House Co-sponsors, One New in Senate

2010 September 26
by admin

Our momentum just keeps on going!

Maybe it’s because it’s election time, and some candidates are making the calculation that support of UAFA helps them with some, very motivated voters without hurting them with voters in general — wh0 knows? But I won’t complain about these numbers:

133 in the House, 25 in the Senate read more…

One-Hundred and Thirty-One.

2010 September 23
by admin

That’s how many co-sponsors we now have in the House, with the addition of two new courageous souls, Rep James A. Himes [CT-4], and Rep James E. Clyburn [SC-6], both signing on on Sept. 22. read more…


2010 September 18
by admin

I honestly have no idea specifically why this is happening, but we just got TWO more co-sponsors: one in the House (U.S. Rep. Martin Heinrich (D-NM-1)), and one in the Senate (Iowa Democratic Sen. Tom Harkin).

This is especially heartening, not only because of the 4 new co-sponsors we received in the past few days, but also because this is the first time in a long time that we’ve had an additional Senate co-sponsor (not since Nov. 18, 2009 — a full 11 months ago). read more…

One Hundred and Twenty-Eight!

2010 September 16
by admin

According to the Library of Congress’ website, as of this posting there are now:

128 UAFA co-sponsors in the House, and
23 in the Senate.

read more…