Waiting on Words
The next couple of days will contain big news for me and my partner.
On Monday, Nov. 26, the Supreme Court is scheduled to finally announce which federal court cases it will hear this session relating to same-sex marriage rights, if any. If they agree to hear the case on California’s Prop 8, there’s a chance that all of the 1996 Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) may fall by next summer. If they refuse to hear it, all of California will have state-level marriage equality, most likely, by the end of this year, but the chances that any Supreme Court ruling will overturn DOMA in some sweeping measure this term will be reduced. There are several other DOMA cases pending, and I think it would bode better for us if the Court wrapped them all up into one big bundle to deal with this controversial issue in one fell swoop. Parsing it out into smaller cases might indicate a continued, very slow, incremental approach, resulting in much more personal pain for many thousands of Americans and many more separated or destroyed loving couples.
On Tuesday, we are supposed to learn whether or not my partner will be included in the massive layoffs announced at his company. If he is slated to be laid off, hopefully we will at least learn when and hopefully that date will be as far into the future as possible, to give us the greatest amount of time to prepare. My partner’s visa is tied to his company, and of course, I cannot sponsor him as his legally nonexistent life partner of 7 years.
I’ve already had to uproot and transplant myself across the Pacific Ocean THREE times since 2007 to preserve my relationship. Together, we’ve had to relocate trans-Pacifically twice. I’m older now and for various reasons, less employable there. I honestly don’t know what will happen if again we’re kicked in the gut by these antiquated laws. But I just don’t think I can do it again. Even the prospect of relocating to another state at this point … is something I just don’t want to think about, yet.
At this point, so much depends… on that red wheelbarrow beside the white chickens…